—________.Help yourself.
—That's out of________question.What can I do for you?
—Not at all.We’ve almost come to the point________we have to separate.
—Yes，of course.________，she should also go abroad for further education.
Elaine was a saleswoman，who drove all overthe city five days a week.When all the freeway lanes were at a dead stop，she would drive quickly along the emergency lane.Whiledriving she usually1on her cellphone，drinking a soda or eating a sandwich—her hands，legsand mouth were always2while she was driving.
Last night she got3in Friday evening rush hour.She was going to be4forher date. She was already5when things seemed to be getting worse andall the traffic stopped.Elaine drove6over to the emergency lane.Soon she saw the red flashing lights in the mirror.She had to7her car.Agoodlooking officer walked up.
“Officer，my boyfriend left me after he got me pregnant.I haveconstant morning sickness.I’m just trying to get to the nearest store to buymy8.” She looked at the officer with9eyes.
He looked at her pitifully，thensaid10 ， “Okay，ma’am.Take the first exit.I hope you’ll be feeling better.”
The officer walked back to his car and Elaine drove on.This was the second timethat11had worked for her.She had one more thing to do before she gothome.She had to mail a package.When she got to the shopping mall at 7 pm，no parking was12 ， exceptfor the handicapped space.Elaine drove right into it.She would only be a minute，she told13.All she had to do was14thepost office，get the package15 ， and pay the clerk.
Fortunately，there was no16in the store.Everything was done so17that she was whistling while she walked back out to her car.Thenshe stopped18.There was an envelope on the windshield (挡风玻璃)．She opened itslowly.She knew19it was，butnot how much it was.She screamed when she saw the20.A dog started barking.
Publicbookshelves are appearing across Germany on street corners，city squares and in suburban supermarkets.In thesefreeforall libraries，people can grabwhatever they want to read，andleave behind anything they want for others.There's no need to register，no due date，andyou can take or give as many as you want.“This project is aimed at everyone wholikes to read.It is open for everybody，” Michael Aubermann，one of the organizersof the free book exchange said.
Thewestern city's latest public shelf was put up next to Bayenturm.It is thefourth free shelf that Aubermann's group，theCologne Citizen's Foundation，hasplaced outside.“We set up our other outdoor shelves last year and it's beenworking really well，” said Aubermann.The public bookshelves，which are usually financed by donations and cared for bylocal volunteer groups，have appearedindependently of each other in many cities，suburbsand villages.Each shelf holds around 200 books and it takes about six weeks fora complete turnover，with all the oldtitles replaced by new ones.
Evencommercial book stores and online book sellers seem to support the idea of freebook exchanges.“We see this project rather as a sales promotion than ascompetition，” said Elmar Muether.“If books are presenteverywhere，it helps our business，too.”
So far，theCologne book group has had few problems with damage or other problems.Aubermannsaid，“Propaganda (宣传)is the only kind of literature we do not allow here.”
Atanother bookshelf in the Bayenthal neighborhood，thelower shelves are reserved for children's literature only.“It is important thatwe make it easy for everyone to participate in this ‘reading culture on thestreet’—from old readers to kids to immigrants，”Aubermann said.
Whilemost of the shelves have so far been put up in upscale_neighborhoods ， Aubermann and the 20 volunteers who help look after theproject are planning to put up future shelves in poor neighborhoods，where citizens often don’t have as much access toliterature.
Ifyou have ever tried a new sport or attempted learning a musical instrument, youare well aware that the hardest part is getting started. Once you figure outthe technique, the skills return fairly easily, even if they are not used forlong periods of time. Most experts attribute this to “muscle memory”， which means the brain remembers the action and can recallit when needed. Now some researchers from John Hopkins University believe thereis another factor that may be as important in recalling previously learnedmotor skills—the errors made while learning the task.
Thestudy led by Reza Shadmehr, Professor of Biomedical Engineering, involvedasking volunteers to play a simple video game: hitting a red target dot with aslightly smaller blue dot, similar to playing virtual games. What the gamersdid not know was that as soon as they mastered the game, the researchersreprogrammed it by moving the blue dot slightly offcourse, thereby forcingthem to restart the learning process. What the scientists observed was thatthough the volunteers did make mistakes every time the game was changed, theygot successively faster at mastering it.
Shadmehrbelieves that this has something to do with the fact that in addition todelivering the task to muscle memory, the brain is also recognizing each wrongmove and learning how to correct it. He compares it to having a coach thatpoints out the mistakes and makes suggestions on how to improve.
Whatsurprises the scientists most is that making mistakes not only trains the brainto perform better at a specific task, but also helps it learn faster fromerrors, even when the mistakes are made while learning a completely differenttask. The researchers believe that the brain keeps a general database of errorsand draws_on them whenever a new motor skill is being learned, toensure that mistakes are not repeated. This helps make successive learningprocesses much faster.
I'dheard about the Internet addiction before, but always assumed it was somethinglimited to socially challenged guys whoplayed too much World of Warcraft (a computer game). Now it seemed my Internet“habit” is slowly but surely crossing the line. Sometimes I find myself up atmidnight, surfing the Web while myfamily are sleeping. I read news, keep up with friends and write my blog...just for something to do.
Itturns out that I'm not the only mama who is addicted to the computer. Thesemoms are contributing to a growing global addiction. There's a movement among psychiatrists (doctors whospecialize in mental diseases) to recognize the Internet addiction as anofficial mental disorder. And a recent Stanford University national surveyfound that 14 percent of Internet users find it hard to stay away from itfor several days at a time; 9 percenttry to hide their “unnecessary Internet use” from their loved ones; 8 percentadmit they use the Web as a way to escape problems.
You'relikely not the kind of addict who doesn't bathe and abuses drugs to help herstay “up” for more online time. You may have noticed, though, that going onlinehas become a necessary part of your life, which, at least, means a load ofclothes go unwashed. It may also mean you're missing much time with yourbaby—something you probably do care about.
She described all the things she had to do—one was to make her bed—from themoment she woke up until she flew out of the door for work.I suggested sheexperiment by not making her bed for two weeks.She was shocked，probably thinking I'd been raised by wolves in a forest.
Two weeks later she went into my office beaming.She had left her bed unmade for thefirst time in 42 years? and nothing bad had happened.“And you know what？”she said.“I don't dry my dishes anymore，either.”
One was discovering that she had choices in her life that she had never seenbefore.The other was giving herself permission to be less than perfect.Thisstory shows an important principle (原理)about managing time：No one can do it all.Eachof us has to make choices and accept tradeoffs.The problem is，many people choose in ways that put themselves and theirhealth last.They take better care of their houses and cars than they do ofthemselves.
So what is the solution？There's an easyway.Decide what you want in your life，andput that first.On a daily basis，thatshould include regular meals，enoughsleep and time with your family.Exercise，leisure，friendships and hobbies should also be regular aspects oflife. The choice is yours：whatevermakes you feel good about yourself and your life.Take a nap.Take a walk.Taketime to play the piano.Stop bringing your briefcase home from the office.Stopkeeping your house as clean as your mother kept hers .Fill more of your timewith wanttodos instead of havetodos.
A．This woman had made two major breakthroughs (突破)． B．Above all，youneedn't do anything for yourself regularly. C．They put everyone else's needs ahead of their own. D．However，shewent along with my idea. E．Most people do not take time to relax themselves. F．The point is to do something for yourself every day. G．A patient came to see me about the stress in her life. |
We're human, and it's not always easy to get along with everyone all the time.Sometimes we hurt other people's feelings without intending to. Sometimes，we're (deliberate) mean and we feel bad afterward. So we apologize. Apologies are one of the tools we use to build good friendships andrelationships. you say“I'm sorry” (and really mean it), it's because youprobably feel bad that something you did or said hurt the other person. Sayingyou're sorry is more than just words. You're also saying that you respect theother person you care about his or her feelings.Apologizing shows you have empathy.
After apologizing，you might feel alittle (good)．The other personprobably will, too. When you apologize in a caring way, you can feel goodbecause you are trying to make things right again.
Some times a heartfelt“I'm sorry” (fix) everything right away. Other times，it might take while for someone to get past feeling upset. You may need to give the otherperson some time. Even after you say you're sorry, you might still feel bad aboutwhat you said or did—but you can feel good about apologizing, fixing themistake, or making up your to do better. When someone apologizes to you，you may welcome it and be ready to forgive happened and move on. Or you might not feel like being friendly againright away. If a person keeps hurting you and (apologize)without making aneffort to change，you might not want tohang about that person any more.
