For years we have been told that encouraging a child＇s self-respect in important to his or her success in life .But child expert are now learning that too much praise can lead to the opposite effect, Praise-aholic kids who expect it at every turn may become teens who seek the same kind of approval form their friends when asked if they want to go in the backseat of the car . The implication （含义）of saying “You are the prettiest girl in class ,” or talking about the goals she scored but not her overall effort ,is that you love her only when she looks the best ,sc