How to Be a Good Listener
Being a good listener can help you see the world through the eyes of others. It enriches your understanding and expands your capacity for empathy (同情). Good listening skills can provide you with a deeper level of understanding about someone's situation.
1 Place yourself in other people's shoes. It's easy to only consider the impact of the other person's "telling" on you. But you must open out and look at the problems from the other person's view.
2 Avoid comparing the person's experiences to your own. You may think that the best thing you can do to really listen is to compare the person's experiences to your own. But this type of thinking actually makes the person feel like you're not really listening at all. That means that you're focusing more on yourself than on the person's situation.
3 Some people think that, when they're listening, they should find a quick and easy solution to the person's problem. According to the research, it is totally wrong to do so. Instead focus on absorbing (理解) everything the person is saying to you. Only after that can you really try to help.
4 Know what not to do. Knowing what to avoid when you're trying to be a good listener can be almost as helpful as knowing what to do. If you want the speaker to take you seriously you'd better not interrupt in the middle of a point. Make eye contact with the person so that the person realizes that you are interested and are listening.
A. Don't try to help immediately.
B. Avoid saying "I" or "me" a lot.
C. Try to solve the person's problem quickly.
D. Don't try to change the subject, even if it's a little uncomfortable.
E. If so, you would see your way through the problems much faster.
F. Therefore you had better listen to what the person is saying carefully.
G. If you want to know how to be a good listener, read on to get started!
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Karen Loewe has been teaching seventh and eighth grade students for 22 years, 1 her most recent day was apparently the most 2 day of her educational career — she tried a new activity with her students in her class.
3establishing that her classroom was a safe space for 4, she asked her students to write about some emotional problems. Since they weren't required to put their names on the paper, they could describe their issues as 5as they wanted. The youngsters were then asked to take turns 6 what their classmates wrote, and all of them were given the opportunity to identify (表明）themselves as the person 7 for the writing. "Things like being left by their parents, death and 8 pets were written down. The kids who heard the. stories would cry because what they were hearing was 9 It was a difficult day, but I believe my kids will judge a little less, 10 a little more, and forgive a little faster," Loewe said.
Since she wrote about her 11 on social media, her post has been shared more than 500,000 times. 12 from all over the world have reached out to her about using similar activities in their own classrooms and her students have learned to 13 other people. "They don't casually 14 or talk down to each other anymore," she said. "They're not rude. It has completely 15 how they treat each other. I wish I would have done this years ago."
December 16, 2009 was the worst day of my mother's life. It was on that day that she was told her thirty-six-year-old daughter had developed breast cancer. I would never forget her hopeless expression and tear-filled eyes as I told her. That scene uncontrollably broke my heart. It was one of the few times in my life that I had seen my mother was so painful and weak.
Since I got breast cancer, the doctors had made a heavy-duty plan to fight with it, which would mean an operation on my breast, five months of chemotherapy (化疗), and five weeks of radiation therapy. It also meant that an independent single girl who lived alone was in serious need of some help and care.
Thankfully, I was blessed with my own army of family, friends and co-workers who had offered to help me out with whatever I might need, including meals and rides to doctors' appointments. But as grateful as I was, there really was only one person who I wanted by my side — my mom. Despite living 300 miles away, my mother agreed even without a second thought. She was going to be my primary caregiver, driver, personal cook, nurse, counselor, and shoulder to cry on. No one else in the world could fill her shoes. It was a job that only she could do.
The night after my first chemotherapy treatment was firmly fixed in my memory. I was never so sick in my entire life. I couldn't even keep down a glass of water. And after hours spent in the bathroom, I weakly lifted myself into bed, weeping, "Please, God, take this away from me. Please make me fed better." At that moment, my mother crawled into bed with me and wrapped her entire body around me. It looked as if l had still been a little girl.
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Over the next six months, my mom traveled between two homes just to take care of me.
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However, when I finally began to recover, my morn suddenly fell ill.
1）表达关心；
2）介绍经验(自我防护、网上学习……)；
3）分享感受(抗疫英雄的无私奉献、人们的团结互助……)。
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1）词数80左右；
2）可以适当增加细节，以使行文连贯。
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1）新型冠状病毒肺炎the novel coronavirus pneumonia或COVID19
2）疾病的大流行pandemic
3）医护人员medics
I worked from the time when I was four and raised seven children, all of them college graduates. It seemed I'd done everything I'd ever wanted to do in my life, but I had one regret. I was born in 1898, the oldest of five kids. Papa couldn't spare me to go to school, so I worked in the fields with him till I was 21 years old.
Everywhere I went, I learned some hard lessons about what happens to a man who even can't read the alphabet. People cheat you out of wages. They sell you a ticket to one city, take your money and hand you a ticket to somewhere else.
By 1928, I'd been wandering for nine years. I met a woman named Elzenia. We fell in love, married and moved to Dallas, where I got work fixing roads for the city. When Amelia, the oldest of our seven children, first went to school, I took my wife aside. "Elzenia," I said. "I don't want the kids to know I can't read or write."
In 1938, one day my boss called me in. "George," he said. "No one knows those machines like you do. I'd like to promote you." But my thrill and surprise were cut short when he said, "Fill out this application and we'll get you a raise." I couldn't admit the truth. I thanked him and walked out of his office. I did stay right where I was, until I turned 65 and my boss made me retire. But I didn't stop working. For the next 25 years, I lived a happy life, but it still seemed to me like something was missing.
A young fellow handed me a piece of paper. It's information about adult education classes. People can learn to read and write. Now I'm 98. I thought of my friends and neighbours and what they might think if they found out I couldn't read. After all these years, my secret would be out. But all my life I've wanted to read. It was high time for action.
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The young man drove me to a huge building
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I'm still going to school.
Strangers under the Same Roof
Does every dinner with your parents seem to turn into an argument? Have your once warm and open conversations become cold and guarded? Do you feel that you just cannot see eye to eye with them on anything? You are not alone. Heated arguments and cold silences are common between teenagers and their parents.
Teenagers' physical changes may result in such family tensions. You may feel anxious that you are developing at a different rate as your friends, shooting up in height or getting left far behind. You might worry about your changing voice, weight problems or spots(粉刺). When the worries get too much, your parents are often the first target of your anger.
It can be a big headache to balance your developing mental needs too. You enter a strange middle ground—no longer a small child but not quite an adult. You have both a new desire for independence and a continued need for your parents' love and support. You feel ready to be more responsible and make decisions on your own. Unfortunately, your parents do not always agree and that makes you feel unhappy. Sometimes they forget that growing up is a rough ride. It can be difficult when your parents treat you like a child but expect you to act like an adult. All of this can lead to a breakdown in your relationship.
Although sometimes it may seem impossible to get along as a family, you can take action to improve the situation. The key to keeping the peace is regular and honest communication. Just remember that it is completely normal to struggle with the stress that parent-child tensions create, and that you and your parents can work together to improve your relationship. The good news is that this stormy period will not last. Everything will turn out all right in the end, and the changes and challenges of your teenage years will prepare you for adulthood.
Father: My dear son, I am glad that you (pass) the exam with a good score. Now you have to decide which way you will go from here.
Son: Yes, Dad. I (come) for your advice.
Father: But I want to know your mind first. Our choice must be to your liking.
Son: I (dream) of being a doctor before, but now I (change) my mind. I want to be a computer engineer.
Father: It is an excellent career. But have you ever thought over how hard the work is?
Son: Yes.
Father: But do not forget that this career also (need) much patience.
Son: You are right. But I think nothing is impossible if I (study) hard.
Father: Excellent! I agree with you whole-heartedly. But I would advise you to study general science first before you (enter) an engineering university.
Son: Yes. I (learn) science in a famous college. But it means extra cost.
Father: Oh, no, my boy! You needn't worry about that. I (pay) all your costs, as I know my money will be well spent.
Son: You are so kind to me, Dad.
Father: And you are so good to us, dear son. I fully support your future plan.
Son: Thank you, Dad.
