Is your mind completely filled with thoughts of something? That's called obsession (痴迷). When we think of obsession, we tend to think of the 1 aspects of extreme behavior. It can be unhealthy or dangerous. However, actually, “productive obsessing” can be not only a 2 for boredom and passivity, but also the recipe for a 3 life. Having a productive obsession appears to 4 people to do this, even if things get tough. In contrast, those without passion (激情)may end up letting challenges and difficulties 5 them.
But there is a fine but important 6 between obsession and passion. So how do you 7 a passion, and avoid the negative aspects of obsession?
Whatever the project is, it should 8 love and interest. People, who have an unexplored interest in something, but always put it off, should begin by 9 themselves to it for a month. When people do commit themselves on something, even for a month, their brains become retrained. It 10 hesitating and worrying and explores its own potential.
Having a productive obsession leads to various mental 11: pleasure when things are going very well; 12 when you are offended. The key is being prepared for these states and knowing how to handle them. Being obsessed with a(n) 13 plan for years without putting it into practice is not productive.
Going after something with 14 may not make you outstanding, but you don't know where it will lead until you give it a try. At the very least, it could be the 15 to a satisfying and meaningful life。
Traveling without a map in different countries, I find out about different ways of directions every time I ask “How can I get to the post office?”
Foreign tourists are often puzzled in Japan because most streets there don't have name signs. In Japan, people use landmarks (地标) in their directions instead of street names. For example, the Japanese will say to travelers, “Go straight down to the corner. Turn left at the big hotel and go past a fruit market. The post office is across from the bus stop.”
People in Los Angeles, the US, have no idea of distance on the map: they measure distance by time, not miles. “How far away is the post office?” you ask. “Oh,” they answer, “it's about five minutes from here.” You don't understand completely, “Yes, but how many miles away is it, please?” To this question you won't get an answer, because most probably they don't know it themselves.
People in Greece sometimes do not even try to give directions because tourists seldom understand the Greek language. Instead, a Greek will often say, “Follow me.” Then he'll lead you through the streets of the city to the post office.
Sometimes a person doesn't know the answer to your question. What happens in the situation? A New Yorker might say, “Sorry, I have no idea.” But in Yucatan, Mexico, no one answers “I don't know.” People there believe that “I don't” is impolite. They usually give an answer, but often a wrong one. So a tourist can get lost very easily in Yucatan! However, one thing will help you everywhere in the world. It's body language.
—Yes, that's my bike broke down on the way.
We have most friends at the age of 26 after having spent the first quarter of our lives building up our friendship circle, a new research has claimed.
The research into friendship shows that our social circle peaks at 26 years and 7 months, at which we typically have five close friends. Women are most popular at 25 years and 10 months, with men hitting the highest friendship point a little later at 27 years and 3 months.
The research, by Forever Friends, shows that about a third of adults meet their closest friends when at school, with about a fifth saying they meet them at work.
Social networks such as Facebook and Twitter now also play a major role in building new friendship. The research points out that 25 to 34-year-olds make 22 friends via Facebook, compared to 18 to 24-year-olds who make 12, and 35 to 44-year-olds who make just 4.
Forever Friends' relationship coach Sam Owen says, “It is no coincidence that over a third of us meet our best friends at school. It is a key time in our lives when friendship is growing through sharing notes, giving gifts, seeing each other regularly and laughing a lot. As adults we can often forget how powerful these small things are and how the little things can make a difference. ”
Later in life we find ourselves losing friends. Over half of us lose friendship through moving, while 36% say that over time they grow apart from close pals. Having children also causes 19% to drift away from childhood friends.
With growing pressures being put on friendship these days, it's important to make time for our friendship.
People need to relax and enjoy themse1ves. One way they can have a good time is to watch a baseball game or another sports event. Even thousands of years ago, groups of people gathered to watch skilled athletes (运动员).
Over 2000 years ago in Greece, certain days in the year were festival days. These were holidays when people stopped work and enjoyed themselves. They liked to watch athletes take part in races and other games of skill.
The most important festival was held every four years at the town of Olympia. It was held in honor of the Greek god Zeus (Zus). For five days, athletes from all parts of the Greek world took part in the Olympic Games. At the Olympic Games, people could watch them box, run, jump and so on. There was a relay race between two teams of men in which a lighted torch (火矩) was passed from runner to runner. The Olympic Games were thought to be so important that cities which were at war with one another had to stop fighting. People were allowed to travel to the games safely. Thousands of people came to Olympia from cities in Greece and from her colonies (殖民地) in Africa, Asia and Italy. They met as friends to cheer their favorite athletes and to enjoy themselves.
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